Hungry Ghosts looking for Love
From one of my favorite books – Zen and the Art of Falling in Love
Someone who cannot find love.
Its not that love has not come their way… Hundreds of time in their life they are led to tables spread with endless food and precious delights, but no matter how much they eat (date)… they cannot be satisfied. Either they aren’t at the table in time, or can’t seem to taste the food or no matter how much they put in their mouths, they continue to search for more. Hungry ghosts might sample one relationship after another yet not knowing how to digest it, never satisfied.
They never know or get to know the REAL person who is actually standing right in front of them.
All they know is that they want more… and more… and more…
They fantasize that someone ELSE… the “perfect person” is about to walk through the door.
Certain wounded hungry ghosts, may appear like they are available for love, but they really only have an intention to “play the game” the game of seducing and teasing and when love does find them…they reject the person. Their pleasure is in withdrawing the love they seem to be offering. This provides these ghosts with a sense of control so that nobody will ever control them through the strange experience of love.
Hungry Ghosts are the single people who enter huge rooms filled with hundreds of single people and immediately say “ there is no one here tonight” they cannot experience or be satisfied with that which life presents. In terms of relationships, they go around and around on a merry-go-round grabbing for the gold ring which is always just beyond their reach. OR if they do catch it, they soon discover to their horror that it is not actually gold! but brass.
All of this is exhausting and disheartening and makes the hungry ghost very sad.
Even when they are with someone they love, they often wonder, could someone else be their TRUE soul mate out there? Could they missing them?
Their painful affliction, which has become quite familiar, has become hard to change.
Its almost like they have developed an affliction for this pattern. Maybe they love being alone?
What the hungry ghost is lacking is the one missing very important ingredient to falling in love…
It takes time for a person to feel at home in a relationship and to reveal whom they really are so you can see the good inside. It takes time to wait for another and to develop true caring and trust.
Hungry ghost however have a difficult time with patience.
Starving for food and love they will often grab at anything just to satisfy themselves. Sometimes don’t even know the difference between food and garbage! They take in anything in anyway just as long as they can immediately feel full … it’s the hollow feeling they can’t tolerate that drives their lives.
Hungry Ghosts never satisfied?
What can you do to change to become more successful and break the bad karma?
First and foremost we must STOP our attachment to the patterns and false notions that the love we so desperately crave comes from somewhere, or someone else. When we are dependent upon the external world to fulfill us, sooner or later the rock we keep trying to roll up the mountain begins to fall down.
Our sense of ourselves falters with the changes
Without the hardships, how can we appreciate what is valuable? And just as quickly, love can happen in a second, but we have to be open and ready to accept it.
We discount so many on first impressions while we are waiting for the “right one” to appear.
Take time today to relax, to be patience.
To know wishing or demanding love to happen NOW will only prolong your search.
Enjoy life as best you can, enjoy the days, evenings and weekends making new friends even if you don’t meet “the one” that very night.
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