“I went to one event of yours and I didn’t met anyone I wanted to date”
My response – You went to ONE event and you didn’t meet anyone?
Ladies and Gentlemen– it rarely happens in ONE event, but it DOES happen one day ! And hopefully when that time arrives we have enough time to enjoy each other.
People ask me all the time…What is your success rate?
I quickly respond- “I have no success rate, I am not a matchmaker”
My job is to create fun events, bring people together and let the universe do the rest. Rarely am I kept in the loop, as to who connected with who, unless the couple is kind enough to share their story.
*This below true story hopefully will bring new faith and inspiration to you all while searching
Steve G. was a single gentleman that attended my events. He first started coming to my events back in 2008 when I first got started. Steve was patient in his search, and many times left the event knowing that maybe he made a few new friends, but not a match made in heaven.
Well, about a year ago- Steve G met Diane at one of my events. I thought Diane had made a good connection with another gentleman whom we will call “SAM” that evening, not necessarily Steve. Diane and Steve had “picked” each other for a match however.
Well about 4 months later, I called Steve one night, and asked:
“Hey Steve where you’ve been? Have any plans tonight? Would you like to join us?”
Steve’s voice became sad and low, he said “Gail, I just found out this week I have Leukemia.” I was stunned and said. Oh Steve, I am so sorry to hear that. We discussed it a little more, and then I said goodbye and wished him the best in his recovery.
I went about my busy life and occasionally a thought came to mind – wondering how Steve was making out.
This past weekend, I held a Speed-Dating event and received a last minute call from Diane. She asked if she could join us, as she just needed to get out for the night. I said OK, and then Diane went on to explain she had been Dating STEVE G for the past year since they met at my Speed-Dating event.
I said REALLY? (remembering how I thought the connection was with “SAM”)
Diane went on to explain yes, Steve was not the first one she went out on a date with from that night, but the second. Steve called her, and picked her up and when he arrived, she noticed his charming cute half smile and said to herself, “Hey I think this date will be fun!”
3 months later, Steve suddenly surprised her with a fantastic weekend for them. At the end of the weekend, Diane, not knowing said “OK what’s this talk about? You breaking up with me now that you and I have had this fantastic weekend together” ?
Steve said, “Kinda; it might be best. I just found out I have Leukemia”
Diane said “You’re not getting rid of me!”
They spent this past year together having a BLAST. Diane accompanied Steve EVERYWHERE, they traveled saw old friends – Steve and Diane fell in love.
Steve and Diane dated right up until Steve’s battle with Leukemia ended May 2nd 2011
Steve had never been married, no children and had finally found someone special he so much enjoyed.
Steve did not attend one of my events but many of my events. And he did find someone, sadly and unbeknownst to him, the last year of his life.
Maybe Steve had become more open about the small stuff when choosing mates. When you know your time is limited, everything seems to really take a back seat.
Or maybe it really did take this much time to meet someone special.
Who knows.
It sure makes me think, how much time is wasted and how petty we can all be when it comes to dating.
And gives new meaning to the saying “Carpe’ Diem”
Latin for : Seize the day or Live Life to the Fullest
Wishing you joy on your journey,
Gail
7 in-Heaven Singles Events
On your search for the one, we make being single fun!
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I consider Steve a lucky man….he may have waited his whole life for that special woman but he found her! How many would stand by the side of a struggling partner when it’s so much easier to run! God bless them both for having taken that journey together.
Gail:
I had sooooooooooooooooooooo much fun last night and even made a few new acquaintaces such as Janet the psychic and another blonde lady but don’t recall her name. She is from Queens someplace. Anyway ty so much for making the events so enjoyable and I look forward to going to more of them so I can get out of the house for a change.
Don’t look for your mate made in heaven too much. If you have that in mind all the time you are looking for someone , you will fail and not fine anyone at all . You can want that perfect person but, no one is perfect in this world and we ALL have to settle for the best of all the things we want in a mate.
i have thought I found my soal mate but I found out later, she was my ‘cell’ mate. I was in a living hell on earth and this happened only 6 months into my marrieage at the time. i got out of that after a child and 3 years of hell.
My advise to all is to be very careful and do not be blinded by love. Keep your eyes open and look at what you see as ovious sighns of ‘wrong’ but make sure they are really ‘wrong’ and that you are not interpiting it wrong.
Good luck to all in the seach of your match made in heaven as it is VERY difficult to find that special person. Just make sure you keep aware of the user out there that portray themselves as that special match.
Hello Gail! I’ve just read your blog and it not only touched me, it reduced a grown man such as myself to tears! Throughout the course of my life, I have made it my business to wake up every single day and enjoy life to the fullest of my ability because one never knows what tomorrow will decide to bring! I’ve got to admit I have a wonderful life, however the past couple of years I was hit with a couple of difficult challenges.
Last year, I became divorced after being married for 7 years. There were no children.
My whole family and I had no visible clue how unhappy she really was. I had made a proclamation to my friends and family about how this bad situation was not going to affect my lifestyle. I’ve been going out to all kinds of events while she has been doing absolutely nothing with her life, now. My ex had no clue what she sacrificed in her life! Her loss big time! I also face a tough road with my health! A few years ago, I was diagnosed with Chronic Kidney Disease! I also suffer from hypertension. I was first diagnosed with high blood pressure 8 years ago, right after I got married. You talk about a bad coincidence! There’s also the possibility that I might need kidney dialysis and transplantation as well. Gail, I strongly refuse to let any of my personal challenges bring me down. That’s why I strongly feel it is extremely imperative to live life to the fullest.
That’s where you come in because you do an awesome job providing someone like me with a wonderful experience at all of your events.
I always approach a singles event with a grain of salt, as I only have one expectation which is just to go out and have a decent time.
I vividly understand it is excessively difficult to meet the right mate but like I’ve reiterated many times before, I refuse to let it bring me down! If I’m going to allow myself to get all upset, then I’m no good for myself. I’m a highly spiritual person, not that I’m a religious fanatic or anything like that! I try my best to fulfill my obligation by attending mass every weekend. I firmly believe God has a plan for everyone and that everything happens for a reason.
this just goes to show you how unfair life is. Steve found someone he loved and then he passed away. How horrible is that. I have nothing more to say!!!!!!
I don’t see it that way. Some die at 90 and NEVER experience love. Why is that better?
Life is what you make of it. Which is EXACTLY what the point of the story is.
Life can end at anytime. That is just the way it is.
Make the most of it. Don’t see the glass 1/2 empty.